what to do when your partner has diabetes

He does take many naps, so I do get my moments to relax. He can't go without me getting him prepared so if he insists, I'm simply not going to help him that way he has no choice. I'm trying to save him the embarrassment of being rejected at the check-in. I already told him that he won't be able to attend the gym any longer, but he said 'I don't care, I'm still going'. I emailed the gym to see how I can go about cancelling his membership as I know they'll revoke it anyway. I was shaking when I read this as I KNEW they would close the pool. She was basically letting my spouse know not to go for nothing, but little did she know, HE caused the problem. He received a text message from a pool friend saying 'hi, the pool is closed tomorrow due to some kind of emergency maintenance'. When he got home, I knew already this was a big problem because he no longer had the diaper with him. He had an accident while leaving the pool. I got him special swimming diapers to avoid further problems, but today it was more than urine. I got one complaint months ago that the steam room had a urine smell and they guessed it was him. He would use his walker to get around the corner to the gym which has a pool that he liked to move around in for cardio. So in the morning, I have to change the pads and mop the mats. I have rubber mats with wee pads on top along the bedside. He doesn't wet the bed, but he has a urine bottle next to the beside which he uses, though he always misses half of it. He has bathroom accidents (#2) a few times a month, but the diaper catches most of it, while I have to clean up the rest. Like if I say I'm not feeling well, it doesn't phase him as he continues to watch TV. Our conversations are short, and his empathy is pretty much gone. I know things are not right because he doesn't even ask about why the order never showed (I would cancel). He's become obsessive over simple things like making sure our clocks are synced or something that's so insignificant that he'll keep prying on.Īt night, when I am in bed, he'll many times go on Amazon and order things we don't need.

I feel he may be having early stages of dementia, as he seems to be regressing in some ways. He has incontinence problems, so he wears adult diapers when going outside, and most of the time indoors, though at times I have to force him to put them on (which I have to put on him as he can't dress himself easily). Problem is, now the not so good traits are magnified 10 fold due to his age. He's always been incredibely stubborn and kind of selfish but also a good person. and has been on the decline for the past 3-4 years. He's diabetic, somewhat obese, and has mobility issues.

What to do when your partner has diabetes